Having been down this road a couple times myself, some perspective:

- eggs, break, omelettes. Things will definitely get worse before they get better. There's a lot of un-dealt-with stuff that needs to be dealt with.

- the consequences don't always follow, but they do provide a basis for building the kind of understanding you seem to want.

- don't try to articulate, yet. Percolate. Give yourself space to think new thoughts, even if they aren't particularly sensible right this second.