I know its hard to have to realize that KNOWING about each other's needs does not necessarily equate into MEETING them. or even ~wanting~ to.

you have to learn where you and your relationship ::are:: before you can plot a path forward (together). It will probably be difficult to learn every instance where there is a disconnect between you, but it doesn't mean you have to BE disconnected. Learn where you are and then move forward. I know you can do it. You're both in for the long haul, love.