Not Great: Not being on the same page Worse: Not being on the same page AND not knowing it
*hug*
As indicated above, a key question here is 'What does *getting* it' look like. You said, "he just doesn't grok it on an emotional level.". To me that sounds like, "I told him it's important me to me, he understands it's important to me and what it is. But he doesn't want it like I want it."
Put another way, when you tell Q about your needs what do you expect him to do with that information? What is the purpose, for you, to tell him the needs?
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Worse: Not being on the same page AND not knowing it
*hug*
As indicated above, a key question here is 'What does *getting* it' look like. You said, "he just doesn't grok it on an emotional level.". To me that sounds like, "I told him it's important me to me, he understands it's important to me and what it is. But he doesn't want it like I want it."
Put another way, when you tell Q about your needs what do you expect him to do with that information? What is the purpose, for you, to tell him the needs?