We both want things to be better, we both want things to not be broken, but neither of us know how to get from here to there anymore. If you can't get a core need met from your partner, what do you do?
If you get a solid answer for this one...do let me know...
I'm looking at where Z & I are and it's sounding a lot like yours. All I know right now, is because we're under stress and KNOW we have stuff to work on and KNOW we have needs to sort out getting met, in one fashion or another, it's NOT the time to be making a major decision about our relationship.
Someone did once say to me "if your primary needs aren't being met by your primary partner, why are you in the relationship?". My challenge to that one is defining WHAT my primary needs are. I have lots of needs, many that ARE met in this relationship. A few that aren't. Are the ones that aren't met, primary? I haven't decided yet. I don't know. Until I know that. I don't do anything but think and listen and learn.
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If you get a solid answer for this one...do let me know...
I'm looking at where Z & I are and it's sounding a lot like yours. All I know right now, is because we're under stress and KNOW we have stuff to work on and KNOW we have needs to sort out getting met, in one fashion or another, it's NOT the time to be making a major decision about our relationship.
Someone did once say to me "if your primary needs aren't being met by your primary partner, why are you in the relationship?". My challenge to that one is defining WHAT my primary needs are. I have lots of needs, many that ARE met in this relationship. A few that aren't. Are the ones that aren't met, primary? I haven't decided yet. I don't know. Until I know that. I don't do anything but think and listen and learn.
Hugs.