You know, I disagree with this, at least in my case. I recognize that my relationship with rene is very unusual, but if something about my relationship with someone else upsets her enough that she feels the need to exercise an absolute veto, it behooves me to pay attention.

Veto power is a key ingredient of consensus decision making, and I'd argue that if you don't trust your primary not to abuse a veto, then maybe you need to think about why you're in that relationship at all.