I think its a good step forward to realize that the importance should be placed on BOTH "hearing" and "being heard", and that may mean learning new patterns to allow you and Q to both communicate in a (more) comfortable manner. Q and I are similar in our need to go "quiet" for a while to figure out what are the right words to describe whats going on in our heads. I know if Russ made it a habit of barraging me with hard questions during ::that:: period, I would also clam up, get defensive and angry. Its not that I would be mad at ~him~ perse, but frustrated with my own inability to articulate myself clearly and non-threateningly.
relearning how each of you needs to communicate to be heard is good, but relearning how to HEAR each other is probably even more important.
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Date: 2006-06-22 02:19 pm (UTC)relearning how each of you needs to communicate to be heard is good, but relearning how to HEAR each other is probably even more important.
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