I'm an analyst by character and a fixer by temperment. My first reaction to almost anything is to ask probing questions and offer solutions. A while back someone pointed out to me that there are many situations where the right thing to do is to sit back and listen, and not probe and not try to fix as these actions make the situation worse. This is especially true when the other person is feeling vulnerable for any reason.
Think of it like a knot in a muscle. Sometimes it's good to go right after it, but a lot of times that will just make it worse. You have to give it time to release on its own.
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Date: 2006-06-22 03:01 pm (UTC)Think of it like a knot in a muscle. Sometimes it's good to go right after it, but a lot of times that will just make it worse. You have to give it time to release on its own.