Question

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In a large number of ways, I find LESS emotional risk in sex than in demonstrating and receiving romance .

It takes more courage to offer tokens of time, silliness, thoughtfulness, and affection than it does to indulge in lust.

This makes me curious. It also makes me want to man the torpedoes and address the issue!

The other half of this little conundrum is the courage of the receiver.

If you are poly, where does romance stand in the web of consideration for you, your partner, your secondaries, etc.?

I am curious to any thoughts on this/these topics.

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[kellfire.livejournal.com]

In a large number of ways, I find LESS emotional risk in sex than in demonstrating and receiving romance .

I can very much understand this, as it's been a big factor in my life. In my pre-marriage days sex was a sport, all it took was a willing partner, no relationship needed, no strings, sometimes even very little talking. I'm not proud of those days and rarely talk about it...but the basis of my promiscuity was the "fuck em and forget em" ... much easier than putting my heart myself on the line.

When I got into the scene I played along similar lines, not much discretion in who I played with. Eventually I realized how empty I was feeling and stopped playing randomly. (I didn't want to be everyone's meantime girl)

I still have to be very alert to getting physical when it's inappropriate, and am learning it is ok to simply show affection (no matter how many times I say I'm not romantic turns out deep down inside I am.