Poly concepts

[make_your_move]

I'm a huge fan of tacit and his ability to sum up great ideas. I highly recommend his latest entry on "Some Evolving Thoughts on Veto"

Go ... read it now. It's well worth the read.

Comments

[bittibuddha.livejournal.com]

yeah, while I certainly understand and appreciate his reasoning, I think declaring Vetos as Evil is probably a bit further than I would stretch.

I think for people starting out, the concept of a Veto of their partner's potential new SOs is a comforting and valuable concept. As they learn to communicate more effectively and stop issuing ultimatums with each other, the need for the safety blanket of a veto will atrophy.


so: I think vetos have their place in the paradigm, but as training wheels for effective communication.